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Do you and your spouse/partner have different parenting styles?
Does one of you fall into power struggles with your child, use time-outs, punishments, and rewards?
And one of you avoids conflict, attempts to maintain the peace yet still sometimes feels guilty and worries about being a bad parent?
This is often the dynamic in marriage and parenting, where it feels like you and your partner handle parenting in ways that triggers you.
When our kids shows us their worst behavior it's difficult to know what to do in those moments.
We often freeze, feeling overwhelmed or resort to those old parenting tactics that were used when we were kids, making us feel like we're failing at parenting.
Let's change this dynamic together benefitting the relationship with our child and with each other.
Contact Meg To Find Out How
Before becoming a parent, did you have an idyllic vision about what it would be like?
Most of us do...
With good intentions, we expect to be parents who raise kids that are easy, well-behaved, happy and successful.
But in those first several years, reality kicks in: parenting is WAY harder than we ever expected. We find ourselves in the same uncomfortable (awful feeling) situations, losing our cool, and wondering how everyone has it all together, except us...
Here’s the thing, the traditional model of parenting (that many of us were raised in) just doesn't work for us or our kids.
It’s based on thinking we must have authority over them, dominating and disciplining them into being “good” and inherently creating power struggles, conflict, and disconnection. Or the opposite, allowing them to do "whatever they want" imposing our own lack of boundaries onto our kids producing anxiety and ultimately, wounded adults.
The New Parenting Paradigm is much different, it's based on Conscious Parenting and the Montessori Parenting philosophy.
It's an approach for parents that helps recognize and rectify the parents own limitations in order to become worthy of the child. This challenges our own areas in need of healing. Once we realize our kids are here as OUR greatest teacher, we can drop the false idea that we are here to teach them and instead guide them toward becoming independent, confident, resilient and empowered adults. Actually preparing them for life!
Here's a bit about traditional discipline (the old parenting paradigm)...
We think we're teaching them...
- Respect for authority and hierarchy
- Rules, order & organization
- Self-control
- That there are punishments for their actions
- To “pay” for their “crimes”
- To remember their mistakes and think twice next time
- To be 'good'
What we're actually teaching them...
- That authority and hierarchy breed respect - they will end up craving this when they are older
- Rules are to be feared and therefore either blindly followed or bent through lies or deceit
- Order and organization is super-imposed and externally determined
- Self is controlled by others
- That failure, mistakes and natural flaws are to be avoided at all costs
- That they are 'bad' and sent away for making adults uncomfortable
- Shame, guilt and regret at the memory of their errors
- Being good means burying your true self to be accepted. Use of force, anger, and inflicting harm on yourself and others result in compliance.
The first session with Meg had me in tears! The lesson was a perfect reminder of how my daughter is my teacher.
— DR. NICOLE
I see changes in our family that continue to amaze me.
— AMANDA
This work is life changing. Our family is flourishing.
— JANINE
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